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[086daddybear]

hello everyone
i need some tips for my speech, i had started it but then went and lost the memory stick it was saved on so if anyone male or female can point me in the right direction with this it would be much appreiciated
p.s
i've only got 14 days to get it done

[Mrs smiley_face]

Hi Daddybear, I'm not an expert but hope this helps - normally groom says a bit about the BM's and how lovely they are etc. Also a bit about the bride and bit of a story about meeting her first or first impressions and then says how much she means to him and how much you are looking forward to your lives together as husband and wife (awww!)

Also there is an article on here about speeches which might help!
http://www.mrs2be.ie/planning-guides/re ... -speeches/

Let us know how you get on, good luck!

[Marcs-Mrs]

Yea really you just have to thank everyone for comming, thank the BMs, thank your new wife and say a little about her....make sure to mention how stunning she looks and knowing you have a daughter together I would mention something about your daughter too.

[086mummybear]

Thanks girls! This all should help him get started!
He's awful stressed at the moment because that flash stick he lost also had all of his course work on aswell, and he only has this weekend to re-do EVERYTHING!

[im married]

daddybear dont know if you if this will help but here : post15645.html#p15645

and this:

http://www.mrs2be.ie/planning-guides/re ... -speeches/

[Keith Malone Wedding Films]

hi 086daddybear

That's a shame that you lost your USB stick with your speech on it, but hopefully we can help you out here to get you going. 14 days is plenty to get it done, in my experience of filming weddings, I have seen many a groom starting to write his speech just after he has had his starter!

smiley_face has covered the essentials of a groom speech very well, and she and scdp have also linked to a good article on mrs2be about it.

A little advice from my own experience (both as a groom a few years ago and as a videographer who has filmed literally hundreds of groom's speeches).

Firstly, have all your bullet points written out on index cards and leave these on the table so that you can glance down if you get stuck. As you make each point, people will normally clap and this is when you look down to see what you say next.

On the day, don't give anybody else your speech to mind or hold. I've seen a few best men thinking it would be funny to swipe the groom's speech for the day and not give it back to him until later. Not very funny especially when the best man cannot find it when the speech time comes!

This is the format of most Groom speeches:

- a good opener is: "On behalf my WIFE and I..." - this usually gets a warm clap
- welcome everyone and thank them for coming, especially those who have travelled long distances
- thank them for their generous gifts
- thank the bride's family for making you feel welcome since the start
- thank your own family for everything they have done for you
- thank the priest, people who did readings in the church and anyone else who helped
- thank the hotel management and staff
- thank the photographer and especially the videographer (just kidding about this one!)
- thank the bridesmaids for their help on the day and leading up to the wedding. It's then traditional for the groom to raise a toast to the gorgeous bridesmaids
- thank the groomsmen and best man for their work or lack their off. Sometimes the groom might joke about how the best man suffers from memory loss and tends to make up stories... so don't believe everything he says in his speech
- finally, a few words about your new wife and how you can't wait to spend the rest of your life with her..... the groom may decide to end his speech with a toast to his wife...

(hope I haven't left anything out, this is just from the top of my head)

Anyway, that's the norm and from what I see, 95% of groom's speeches tend to follow a very similar style.

Hope this helps and best of luck on your big day.

[086daddybear]

thanks for all your tips
i never got round to doing becouse i had an abundance of course-work to redo and then we went to see Metallica in Belfast and then things seemed to spiral out of control with all the wedding preparation so i just winged it in the end

i really wouldn't recommend this way to anyone, but i could sell ice to an eskimo i managed to get about a 5 minute speech and i remembered all the things people on this thread had told me to say.

[im married]

thats great daddybear

[shower]

Here are some tips for turning a good speech into a great one!

you have to practice the speech at least 5-7 times before the weeding. You start by writing it down word for word and then you practice at least 2-3 times in front of a mirror or a friend with the whole speech in your hands.

Then in step two you make a small index card (2x4 inches) containing all your keywords on which you use to help you remember the rest of the speech. For example if you have a sentence going like, "I remember when John, Stacy and I went on that trip to Iceland and..." then you just put the word Iceland on the index card. That one word will help you remember the whole story. This way you only have to write down 5-8 words to remember a speech that is 5-8 minutes long.

After you have written down your keywords, practice the speech another 2-3 times in front of the mirror or your friend. On the wedding day it should be enough to practice once in the morning with the index card and you should be good to go.

[grogmg]

H2b had to do a speech at his sisters wedding, he was really worried about it for ages and was going to just wing it, but in the end he wrote it down and it was a lovely speech. If you have anything to say, say it from the heart and try and lighten it with a well placed anecdote/joke. H2b would defo recommend writting it down as he was glad he did in the end as it helped him remember what he wanted to say and not to wander or speak too long.

When I was doing public speaking I was always told a good speech is like a mini skirt, short enough to keep you interested but long enough to cover all the basics!

[Cheekymrs10]

h2b is starting a rough speech at the weekend so all these tips will b very helpful for him

[cheeky monkey]

Brill tips here love this thread thanks missies

[BluefishJD]

Really good tips!