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[Mrs_O_Rourke]

Ok ladies
I know its a harsh heading, but its true

so was looking at a pic of myself from a party fri night and i thought OMG the state of me!! It really got me down i looked huge.. totally sucks.. Now i am a big person and i am trying to lose weight but its so damn hard
Ive put up 9 pounds since ordering my dress in dec and im so scared that is isint going to fit me when it arrives in... Im trying to lose the weight but i just dont have any motivation.
I went out last night and totally wanted to come home. Seeing all those Size 8 girls out in the mini skirts etc. Would it ever get you down?... Some days all i want to do is sit down all day feeling sorry. Im never happy with myself and I really want to start being happy in myself and enjoying life..
but why is that so hard

had to get that off my chest!

[Stary Em]

Now ya needed them but women snap outta it.
We all get days where we feel like were as big as a house. Huge in fact. No clothes fit, hair looks wrong, face looks chuuby, pissed off with everythin. There is only one person that can change the way you feel about yourself and thats you hun. Get outta the house when you feel like that, go for a walk and clear your head. You health is your wealth. OK one more cuz i feel your pain

[harv2010]

OK hun can I ask was the pic you saw of yourself on Facebook or the likes of it?! If it was can I just say AVOID AVOID AVOID. I have seen it so many times in dif circles of friends, this is the God Honest truth, I know girls who will pose for every single picture/crop the photos to hide bits they don't like but will tag their 'friends' in any pic which may not be flattering to the other person. This is pure cruelty in my own opinion. I am happy with myself but I have been through alot of tough times in my own lil past, we seem to be one of those families where everything happens to them, these set backs knocked my self confidence to bits, so much so that I became gym obsessed/constantly aware of how I looked, didn't want to be but I was always aware of myself. I was lethal. I am much healthier now in so many ways, I am not as critical of what I eat/not gym obsessed but I am a very active person in a healthy way i.e. cycling/jogging and I enjoy it.

Now hun can I just say to you, you are GETTING MARRIED soooo soon, you have got quite alot going on in your life and what you need to do is just let it out. Get that man of yours shoulder and just cuddle into it and think about how lucky you are to be where you are in your life. Talk to him about it, is there anyone else you can talk to? Is it just the pic hun or is anything else getting you down??!!
xxxxxxxxxx

[hugbear]

I used to feel like this,,, but you know in a while you'll look back at those photos and ask yourself why you were so hard on yourself the whole time!!!! your the only person that can guarantee to treat you right,, get me??

[Cottonsocks]

I used to feel like this,,, but you know in a while you'll look back at those photos and ask yourself why you were so hard on yourself the whole time!!!! your the only person that can guarantee to treat you right,, get me??

I look back now on photos I used to hate, and think I look great.

Everyone has days like this. You have to remember when people look at you, they are not concentrating on all those bits of yourself you hate like you might be, when you look at a photograph.

[Virginia Woolf]

I know how u feel hun. I saw a pic of myself bout three months ago and I cried over it. I my head I didn't match the picture at all. I knew I wasn't super skinny but had no idea I looked like that!! However we are our own worst critics. We'll always think we look worse than we do. I have to say that pic was the kick up the arse I needed. Not just to lose weight but to see that I wasn't the size I used to be.
I really feel for you and understand how you feel but unfortunately feeling like that doesn't change anything. So get up go for a walk or just a cleaning spree. Make urself feel better because no one else can.
Chin up hun

[harv2010]

we are our own worst critics.

BeckyM you are spot on there, that is so true.

[HadMyTurn]

Ah chick Welcome to my world!
I HATE pictures of me and am dreading the wedding pics!
Here's a list of some of the things I hate: chubby cheeks, bad skin, poofy hair, big tummy, square hips, footballers knees, thunder thights, varicose veins, wide hips, mans shoulders, flabby arms, stretch marks
But the thing about it is all those things =me and that me is loved by my h2b, kids, great friends and a loving family.
I'll never be a super model! And i will HATE standing there getting the pics taken at the wedding and when I see the album I will analyse and critic how i looked, stood and held myself. But then I will put said album in a box under the bed and the thing I will be left with is my hubby
People will see who you are on the inide so no matter how you look on the outside and change this or that let your personality shine through and never change WHO you are.
Hope some of that helps hun

[Happily-ever-after]

Everyone gets days like that so dont feel like ur alone! I am a size 8 and i cant stand the sight of myself in the mirror. I feel like its not about ur size its how u carry yourself. my CBM is a size 16 and looks utterly amazing in everything she puts on id love clothes to look on me the way they do on her. Ive been every size under the sun and if i can give u one piece of advice its that being thin DOES NOT make u happy!!

[asbabe]

oh god there are days,lik yestrday, i get so pisd off!there are a lot of things i wantd 2change for so long and im in the process of doin them!yestrday was tereible..i bought a maxi dress and tried it on, only saw the bad things!didn see the pros about myslf... its very hard2thnk poitive but it takes more energy to thnk negativly..its drainin on u.. make a list of all the things u lik about urslf and frame it n a nice frame wit a beautiful pic of urslf,and list ur achievemnts to date on that list...it wil make u see how far uv come..

[ravenrabbit]

totallly with the other misses hun, we defo all get those days when you feel like you have been dragged through a bush backwards n had to many cheese burgers along the way Well I know I have!!! Your health is the most important thing & I know ur prob thinking ya rite love but its so true. If you didn't have ur health you might not be able to even get married. I know u prob feel like crap but try to think positive. Get out walkin more, cut out bread n sugar there is loads of lil things that can help you make a difference if it is bothering you that much!!!
I have a 100 or more of those photo's that you look at & think minger alert about myself but I think its all about what is in your head!!! Have you a Bf that you can talk to this about? coz I know hb2 are the best in the world but a bf can understand more!!! I have loads of weight myself to lose before my big day & have nightmares of me hanging over my dress like a big swollen sunday roast n sweating like a pig let me tell ya hun tis not a pretty sight....I know where you are coming from but you will be fine. I jst use those dreams as motivation to lose a bit more weight hang in der I bet u will feel better 2mor!!!
I totally agree Cotton socks, I have looked at pics yrs ago n said to myself state of me or oh god who left me out like that or I have a head like a melted welly its so unfair & then come across the pic yrs later again I think oh god I actually looked lovely. its a total frame of mind hun. Hope u feel better soon but u will get loads n advice here for all the misses!!!

Ps. LMAO at u stary em with ur snap out of it hun ......... your blunt but nice I it!!!

[Stary Em]

I no i can be quite blunt but if you baby me it jus makes me worst, as in more upset. I did open with cuddles

[ravenrabbit]

oh i know stary em......I luv love to more like that.........u can beat the cuddles

[Muffin]

I feel the same.Am currently a size 14 and have never been this big before. I long to be a small 12 again like I was 3years ago and have vowed ill be that size on my wedding day problem is I am trying to do an hour walk most days but then ill sit on the couch and scoff chocolate and crap and then go so hard on myself again. I deleted most of my holiday snaps this year coz i looked so bloated in them yet i havent the willpower to say no to choc or treats!!! aaaaahhhhhh!!!!

[Mrs_O_Rourke]

Thanks for all your adivce girls.
Ive just gotta learn to love myself more. its hard when you are a big person and feel u are being looked at all the time. h2b is so good keeps telling me im beautiful id be lost without him Im feeling ok at the mo. my Back isint great as i was in a car crash in July. Prevents me from exercising at times. Ive physio tmrw so im hoping it will ease a bit. then back to the gym i go! x