mrs2be.ie

[waterplily]

Hi,

I'm new to this. I got engaged in May and we're hoping to get married in June next year. We're trying to plan our wedding from England, so that we can get married where I grew up. I'm currently looking for a venue and finding it a tough job. Fingers crossed we'll get a venue

Lily

[wuzzles]

Congratz on your engagement and Happy planning!! Have you any idea what area you are loking to find a venue in?

[koko]

you're very welcome and congrats on the engagement. any questions were all here happy to help.

once you have chosen a venue it can all fall into place and its the hardest part of the planning, but when you do finally choose it elation! where abouts would you be looking for a venue?

[Virginia Woolf]

welcome to the site. If you let us know where you are looking the missies are full of advice

[MrsMoo]

Congrats and welcome to the site

[fromOHtoH]

Congrats on your engagement, its such an exciting time welcome to the site

[MrsStokes2b]

Congrats on the engagement!! And Welcome to the site!
Where are you looking to get married?? Im sure theres a missie in/near that area to give you help and ideas!!
Happy planning!!

[waterplily]

Thank you all very much for your kind wishes!

I'm from between Naas and Athy, Co. Kildare and there's a nice hotel in Athy that's not at all expensive that I know quite well. The church is only 5 miles away, so all would be nice and close. My other half wants no fuss what-so-ever, so that would suit him perfectly. They even have (at least they did a couple of weeks ago) the dates we were looking at.

The problem I have is that at the time my sister died a couple of years ago, she'd been working there. My fear is that the emotion of the day will just have my family upset rather than happy.

We also have the problem that my h2b's father is terrified of having another heart-attack, so his parents are saying they won't be there. It's a right mess because it's practically the only family he has. He only has 2 aunts otherwise. He obviously wants his parents there and they can't understand why we'd want to get married in Ireland. I've said we'll do what we can to have the reception at a hotel near the hospital to help ease their minds, but it's not working.

It's all a bit mad. I'm lost as to how to please everybody. Feel freed to tell me that I'm insane!

[scoots]

Firstly congrats and welcome to the site!
Oh huni u poor thing it all seems too much now i know but hopefully things will work out.
Have u asked ur family how they would feel if u were to have the reception in that hotel, would they be upset or would u be upset, it might go the opposite way and might make them think of this hotel in a happy way instead....
How old is his dad does he have health problems? He might come around by next year, how long has it been since having the heart attack? Its not a long flight. Could you maybe show them the location and pictures etc to hopefully get them to come around, as its means so much to h2b for them to be there...
Your not insane, ya just cant please everyone, and its such a shame people are so selfish sometimes cause its not about them its about YOU and h2b of course lol.

[HappyLamb]

Hi and many congrats on your engagement Im sure that H2B parents are aware of the tradition of getting married where the bride is from (we didnt go with it, but I know that it is important to some). If his dad was too worried about flying Im sure he could take the ferry to Dublin and the high speed one is so comfy and so fast that he would be here in a jiffy, he could even rest while on it with a cabin. Could you tell him how close he will be to a great hospital in the unlikely event that something does happen and could you assure him that the hotel have first aid staff on duty. Perhaps if you impress upon them how important it is for you to be married at home and especially when your sister has passed away. perhaps his dad is in a bit of a "focus on me" stage since his heart attack and cannot see (not out of badness) how selfish he is being. Perhaps if ye both sat down with them and discussed your need to be home, he might widen his view?? Could H2B and his dad go and speak to his cardiologist and maybe when the professional says its Ok, the dad might relax a bit?? Sorry for all these options, I know they are probably useless but I feel for you at the moment.

Im soo sorry to hear about your sister passing away, I think you should pop this issue with the hotel out in the open and see how your family feel about it. How do you feel about it? Do you think that your day might be enhansed by the memories of her working there? or do you feel that it might be a lot of emotion on an already emotion filled day. The main thing is to try and remember that this day is so special for you and H2B and you need to be happy with it

Dont forget to come back here and rant when needed..