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[boctober]

Title says it all

[DonnaMcD]

not yet. why? should i be?

[Jackyl]

Do you know what the lads have planned for him ?

[Hailey]

Im only worried that the lads will shave his eyebrows!! He is organising his own stag so im sure it'll be tame enuf. Even if dey end up in a strip club, i knw its me he's coming home to every nite
So nope im not in d least bit worried.

[boctober]

No not suggesting anybody should be worried, but I am. Jackyl, dunno what has been planned but I'm incredibly worried because his family aren't mad about me and I'm afraid they'll organise something to be vindictive to sabotage us....because maybe I'm a freak but I won't go through with the marriage if certain things go on. I'm embarrassed and maybe I should be more libeal but that's just the way I am.

[DonnaMcD]

feck his family. he loves you and even if they try which they prob wont it doesnt mean hel let anything happen. do you get on with his best man who is prob planning it? you could always have a chat with him to put ur mind at ease. when is the stag? hope everything works out ok

[boctober]

Thanks Donnamcd. yep I said it to his brother who is his best man, and he said ' ill keep it clean but I can't speak for anybody else' that said a lot to me, cause his brother is actually decent but my best friend from home is a groomsman I told organisers the dates when he would be away with work and surprise surprise they've organised it for when he's away working working in france !!! When I heard that I got worried cause they got loads of notice but they know he'd tell me if anything went down...seems like strategy to me. I feel so down and embarrassed and to be honest I feel like maybe I shouldn't be getting married at all

[IRockedTheFrock]

Hun,

loooooads of girls feel this way. Even some people that say they arent worried, really are so dont be embarrassed. You are brave to admit you are and its great because its better to talk to others about it than letting it bother you and having to go through the motions alone.
I dont agree with this whole 'if you are worried then you must not trust him so why marry' lark. Of course things are going to cross your mind when thinking about h2b's stag...its totally normal. Especially when you hear about other stags and how their single (and sometimes not) single friends carry on. I was a bit worried for a while so I talked to him about it and he totally put my mind at ease. I told him I wasnt worried about him cheating on me, just worried about him being easily led and doing what the others are doing so as not to seem a party pooper. I also told him I didnt agree with strippers or lap dancers because if thats what he wants, then why get married at all? So I told him I understaood that the lads are gona basically do what they wana do and that if he must, then fine go along but no physical contact whatsover. I also said that he has to promise to tell me what went on when he gets back. I said I'd rather find out from him than somewhere else and he knows by now I ALWAYS find out one way or another so I do trust that he will tell me all about it. He knows that the thing that would hurt me most is doing stuff behind my back or lying to me so I know he wouldnt let me down because he loves me. Plus, if you think about your hen party....youre not gona be doing anything wrong or have any bad intentions are you? So why think he would be any different. Dont worry hun, its not worth it for the sake of a weekend. Nothing is going to happen I promise you! xx

[Mallow]

Firstly there is no need to be embarrassed at all so put that notion out of your head, you feel how you feel so whether that is right or wrong they are your feelings therefore do not be embarrassed by them Nor are you a freak!! When you say if certain things happen do you maen like lapsdance/stripper or actuallt being with someone else?

Hun you know your h2b best, once you trust him, even if you don't trust the others then you'll be fine.

I agree you should talk to him, tell him how you feel but personally, and this is just having done our hen/stag, I wouldn't go on about it too much either. If hubby had gone on the me about what I would do/wouldn't do, he liked/ didn't like, I wouldn't have been happy. It's a weekend ye should both enjoy without a load of stipulations or someone bringing you down before you even get there, if you get me?

[fionab1385]

No I am not a bit worried about it, he will just get stupid drunk for two days!! What is making me laugh though is the amount of wives/girlfriends that are not letting their partners go!!! The stag is in Amsterdam and they don't want their men to go there for fear of temptation - FFS is what I say to what, sure you can get drugs & hookers in every city in Ireland!! They obviously don't trust their men which is sad

[Virginia Woolf]

I totally agree with b2b123. Im sure lots of people feel this way. Im not worried at all b ut thats only because h2b and I have talked about it already. I told him I wasnt happy with strippers or whatever and promised him if he didnt have one I would make ure I didnt have one. This is nothing to do with trust and everything to do with respect. Getting married means you are spending the rest of your life with one person. Why start that life by slapping the ass ( or worse ) of some naked girl that isnt your OH. I know h2b has absolutely no interst in strippers so had no prob mentioning it to him. It isnt about whatyou think he would do but what others might put him up too. Dont be embarrassed and talk to your h2b. Its so not worth getting stressed over.

[IRockedTheFrock]

This is nothing to do with trust and everything to do with respect.

It isnt about whatyou think he would do but what others might put him up too. Dont be embarrassed and talk to your h2b. Its so not worth getting stressed over.

You hit the nail on the head there.

And I forgot to mention that I also wont be having a stripper, my girls know I would hate that! I'm no prude but I only have eyes for my man at the end of the day!

[bingowings]

Oh absolutely normal to be worried about this. Just because you're worried doesn't mean you don't trust him. I'm not particularly worried I know he would never do anything to hurt me the only thing I'm worried about is that they will get really drunk and do something to him ridiculous like shaving eyebrows etc. He will go mad if they do something like this and they have been well warned, by him, not me so I think it'll be ok. My h2b has a tendancy to wander off when he gets drunk and hasn't a clue where he's going so I've asked his brother to keep an eye on him in that regard and he said that he would and I believe him.

I'm more worried about my own hen to be honest! I don't know what my sisters have planned and I'm very scared. Excited about being surprised but very scared!! I think they are just dropping hints about crazy stuff just to wind me up as I wanted to organise my own hen and they wouldn't let me.

[honeybeeluvvin]

Hi hun.. i totally know where your coming from on this one.. and even though I trust my H2B completely, i do not trust his grooms men unfortunately.. and like yourself I don't think i'm exactly flavor of the month (not that i'm bothered ) but i put a four month time limit on it, it has to be at least four months before the wedding so if he comes home minus his eyebrows/hair/willy it has time to grow back. I have no interest in having a hen night but would love the girls to get together and have a big slumber party in out jammys and have a few drinks and watch Dirty Dancing ..!! We are going to rent a few lodges in the Ramada in Drumshanbo Co Lietrim and we have the spa, the bar and the restaurant there as well Nothing hectic. But I will be plannnig it for the same weekend as his so my minds not on what they are doing to him

[stick]

im married a few months and i was worried what tthe lads on the stag would do to him .
i told the bestman if his eyebrows weretouched there would eb war.

they didnt touch tehm, they didnt even dress hubby up or somethign. the stripper was the only thing and sure i knew there would have to be one.

hubby insisted on having his own room on the stag.-which gave him peace of mind