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Hi Missies and Misters!

Just wondering what you all think of making a donation to a charity instead of doing favours?!
I recently lost my Nan to a defeat in her battle against Cancer. I wanted her at my wedding so much.
H2B Suggested that instead of doing favours why not make a donation to the Gary Kelly Centre in Drogheda Co.Louth (they really looked after her!) as a way of including her in our day and making sure shes not forgotton about?!

Yeay or Nay?!

Hey Becky, We are also thinking of making a donation, h2b mam died 3years ago also with a courageous fight against breast cancer aged 47, but going on 21, she was the life and soul of every party! We were also thinking of the Gary Kelly centre but not sure as h2b mam didn't want to use it, but it is a great resource for people in the area and since she died h2b aunt used it for bereavement counselling so families benefit from it too. We are now thinking of the local hospice foundation who volunteer to drive people from the area to hospitals in Dublin for treatment. This service meant so much to h2b mam and family because she hated to burden anyone with taking time off work to drive her for treatment, so when we weren't available she used this service. I think we will get a small piece of card or something to let people know about the donation but nothing too big or obvious because we dont want to make the wedding morbid or anymore sad than its going to be without her there.

Hey Becky, Eb,

I think it's a lovely idea - was actually investigating it myself... putting a card on each table, or instead of a favour at each setting is the usual, but could be a bit much - how about a card tied to one of the flowers in the centre piece, or a note on the seating chart? Still thinking abotu how i'm going to do it. Considering not taking gifts, just asking for donations for Alzheimers (close to my family)

Am thinking of doing this also i think its a lovely idea

Yea, I wasnt sure if itd go down well with the guests, I guess we'll just do it anyway! A friend of mine done something similar and just tied a wee piece of ribbon around the printed page, it was very nicely done and everyone said it was lovely....

Yep, think were def going to do this.

i say yeah, think its lovely idea.

sorry for your losses girls

girls i think this is a great idea
we were going to do little candles but in the end we gave a donation to the irish cancer society - my dad died a few years ago with this battle against cancer and we were so close
i will miss him so very much on our big day
i wish more than anything he could have met my h2b or he could be there on the big day but i think a donation is a great idea,

Hi,
We are also doing this at our wedding. My Mam is on dialysis and awaiting a kidney transplant so we are going to give a donation to the Irish Kidney Association. We're not sure how we are going to do it. We were thinking of maybe putting it on the bottom of the menu prehaps. Not too sure though. Any thoughts?

hi fifi tinkerbell
sorry to hear about ur mum hopefully she will be ok but re ur donation speak to the kidney association and they probably have something they can give you and you can place on the tables so ur guests can see ur donation
the cancer society gave us wee place cards and they are lovely

Hi Trees,
thats a great idea, never even thought about that. I must look into it. Not getting married till next year but just trying to get everything sorted, even though most of it is in my head!!! Do you mind me asking if there is a minimum amount you can donate or is it up to ourselves?

its up to yourselves but depending on how much you donate may depend on the number of place cards they give you but if you figure how many place cards you might need and talk to them and see what they say..

even if they cant you could say it in the speeches that a donation was made to X chairty

Thats great, thanks a million girls. Im only starting to get into this and I'm amazed at how much there is to do and all the small things you have to consider. It's crazy really!!! Thanks a million for the advice and info!!!!!

ya i find the smaller thing a pain, cas there is just so many!

Girls sorry for your losses and I think it is a lovely idea

I might do something for the Hospice myself as there are a lot of people in my h2bs family including his parents that were / are affected with cancer