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[MrsTK2B]

Hi all,

I'm curious to know if I am the only missie not yet living with H2B. Just occurred to me that it must be a bit unusual these days. Though in the rural area we are moving to its probably still the norm not to live together until married or at least engaged. Its around 20 years behind rest of country though!

Its not a moral thing, we have just been living in different parts of the country. We are in the process of buying a house and will be moving in before the wedding, hopefully before Christmas. MIL would prefer we waited until we are married I am sure, but is wise enough not to say so!

[TGR]

I am not living with the h2b (mostly because he lives in a different country at the moment), but even when we lived in the same city, we lived in different apartments. My parents would a have a fit if we had moved in together before marriage. I'm looking forward to finally living with him and having someone other than myself to cook dinner for!

[tandybo]

That is sooooooooooo cute mrs2be......So unheard of in this day and age but the romance of it is brilliant.
Fair play

[Hailey]

[Soph11]

Not unusual, but probable less common (if that makes sense ? ), you do learn a lot from living together

[Skittles]

i'm not living with hubby as we both work in different counties. I work a 4 day week and i get to go up to him and our house that we are renting thursday nights till sunday. I miss not being with him 24/7 but in this recession thats what we have to do.

[MrsTK2B]

Skittles, that really is a pity. Such a sign of the times that you have to do that. We're doing the same at the moment, working and living almost fours hours drive apart. But my job is temporary so at least we will be living together full time when we are married. Then I just have to try to find a job in a county that is a total unemployment black-spot....

[Lainseybainsey]

hi all, our situation is a little complicated.......we bought our house a year ago(before we were engaged) and then hubby got offered a job out of the country. I gave up my job(was paid the same money as H2B but had no stability in it) and relocated with him. while we were away we got engaged and are planning the wedding around when we will be moving back to Ireland (hopefully)
I know people who are married now and have never lived together (they worked in different counties-so had completely different lives) until they also relocated, and , even though they have been married for a couple of years it's almost like they have only been going out for a few months.
there are pros and cons about living together/not living together prior to marriage. one of the pros is that you learn about your partner,and work on your marriage on a daily basis. one of the cons is that you have to learn all of the bad habits that your partner may have.
there was a post recently on here (well a few months ago) from a newly married woman, who was so hurt and upset because she felt like she was being treated like a slave by her husband,....the problem was that her husband had previously been living with " The Mammy" had was used to being mollycoddled. The advice given was just to sit down and talk and realise why you love the person, but also to set in place some rules and boundaries....sharing housework and all that.

It will be great fun for you when you do get married, because you will find out all the little intricacies that make up your married life togetgher. best of luck for you for the future......Sorry for the rather long reply (It's quite late here and we were out celebrating the Ireland result!!!)

[MrsTK2B]

It great to hear the varied situations you girls are in. Nice to know there are others in similar situations, either through choice or necessity. Even if we weren't living at opposite ends of the country H2B would not have been happy moving in together until we were engaged. He even suggested at one stage we could wait til after the wedding but I wasn't having any of it! Now he's changed his mind though and would be disappointed if I said I wouldn't move it til married.

As we spend all our weekends together I don't think it will be too much of a shock to be living together. Though the fact he works from home and I wont have a job in the place we are moving to could add complications. I think I will have to make extra efforts to get out and about with other people so we don't get sick of each other.

[Loveknowsnodistance]

I live with him, but not on the moment, I had to spend 3 months in Brazil, and he stayed in our flat in Germany. came to visit me in Brazil but was only for 11 days. I will be back in Germany and in our flat in less than one month though. can't wait!

[MrsTK2B]

Wow, that really is a long distance relationship. I bet you're counting the days til you get back to Germany. I should remind myself of that next time I'm, grumbling about having to drive to Dublin for the weekend to see H2B.

[TGR]

I live with him, but not on the moment, I had to spend 3 months in Brazil, and he stayed in our flat in Germany. came to visit me in Brazil but was only for 11 days. I will be back in Germany and in our flat in less than one month though. can't wait!

I totally understand your situation- I live in Canada and h2b lives in the UK at the moment. I get to see him for a week when we both fly over to Dublin for the wedding and then I probably won't see him again until mid-Feb when he will be officially immigrating to Canada! can't wait for it!