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[Jackyl]

My Dad just gave us a cheque as a wedding gift which is great. As it turns out this would cover about one fifth of the cost of the reception. Should I now change my invites, which are drafted but not printed, from Myself & H2B doing the inviting to Myself, H2B together with my father doing the inviting ????

Myself & H2B have assumed all along that we would be paying for the wedding ourselves. We are living together for over 10 years now & I didn't expect my father to pay for the wedding, myself and my father never discussed the subject of who's paying or what anything cost. He could well afford it I know but as I say I never expected him to pay which is fine. But now I'm wondering does this gift mean I should mention him on the invitations ?

[Its_my_day_soon]

You might consider saying something along the lines of
"bride & groom, together with their parents"
I don't think it'd be nice to put just your dad and not your mum, and then you h2b parents might feel left out. But at the end of the day it's up to you. My dad gave me a cash gift close to a third of the wedding cost and we phrased our invites as above. It was no skin off our noses to put the parents names on it and they quite liked it.

[Jackyl]

Sorry, I should have mentioned that my father is the only parent living, my Mum & H2B's parents are deceased.

[Jamber]

What does your h2b think?

I think itd be a very nice gesture to your dad to let him host. Im sure hes very proud to be able to contribute, & that you are getting married.

My mum & dad gave paid for a large percentage of our wedding, 50% & we're paying the other half, so we have decided that they will be hosting our reception, for the purpose of invites iykwim?!

[letmeeatcake]

My mum gave us the gift of covering the expense of all of the reception, which was extremely generous of her. Despite that, she didn't want to be on the invitations, so we just had ourselves on it. That being said, our invitations were a little unconventional anyway, so it would have looked odd if my mum was hosting it. I think it is personally up to yourselves. Do what looks best and maybe ask your dad if he would like to be on the invitations in the first place?

[Its_my_day_soon]

Sorry, I should have mentioned that my father is the only parent living, my Mum & H2B's parents are deceased.

Oh right. I didn't realise that, in that case I'd say let your dad host the wedding with you and your h2b. If your h2b doesn't mind that is

[Virginia Woolf]

Oh its a tough one hun. I'm not sure really. We just have our names on invite. My mam is giving us €2k towards the wedding and Im more than happy with that but the wedding is costing €20k so we are paying for the majority so I just left it as us. She did ask me would we not put with our parents on invite but I told her neither of us wanted to because of a difficult situation between h2b parents. However with your dad being the only living parent maybe it would be nice to include him.

[bingowings]

Although we are getting gifts from our parents myself and h2b are paying for our wedding. I know the tradition is that you put your parents down on the invites if they are going to pay for the wedding and although my parents aren't paying for it I'm still putting them on the invites. I'm the youngest of seven and their last girl to get married, they have done so much for me to get me where I am today so for me it would be only right to put them on the invites. They may not be paying for my wedding but when I had my son at 20 they were behind me every step of the way and allowed me the chance to go back to college so that I could hopefully make a better life for me and my kid. Not everyone gets that opportunity so I am extremely grateful to them. They may not be paying for my wedding but they have given me far more than that so that's why I want them on the invites.

Even in saying all that whatever you decide to do your Dad is still going to be proud of you and happy for you.

[grogmg]

I would say before you go changing the wording is have a quick word with your h2b and then your dad. Your dad might be happy to not be mentioned on the invites. If he is happy to go on the invites, as he is the only living parent I think it would be lovely to have him named on the invite as a host!

[IDoBelieveInFairys]

I would say before you go changing the wording is have a quick word with your h2b and then your dad. Your dad might be happy to not be mentioned on the invites. If he is happy to go on the invites, as he is the only living parent I think it would be lovely to have him named on the invite as a host!

[Jackyl]

Thanks for your help, knew I could rely on the missies for honest opinions, appreciate it
I reckon I will have a chat with my father & let him know that I will mention him on the invites as
being host & see if he is happy with that, just in case he doesn't want to be, he's not always the easiest man to read. H2B is easy enough either way.

[cc2011]

Yes I would change them