mrs2be.ie

[bingowings]

Sorry to hear about your friends h2b but hopefully all will be ok with him.

As for sounding like a bithch I don't think you are. It's understandable that you feel that way. It's a tough one because if you say anything honestly it could look bad. Did you talk to your friend about this? Did she give you a reason why she picked the week before yours? I honestly don't know what to say maybe some of the other missies might have something more constructive to say. I will say though that my cousin is getting married a week after mine and she booked hers first and I phoned her first to make sure it was ok with her that I got married the week before (not too many people would have been affected only a few aunts and uncles) but I wouldn't have gone and booked it if she wasn't ok with it. I think your friend probably should have said something to you but with everything going in she probably wasn't thinking straight.

[flomeo]

I kinda see where you are coming from but she hasn't postponed it out of badness!
It's horrible circumstances and I don't think its right for anyone to be "raging" about it! It makes it sound like they think she is doing it to spite you or something.

Are ye're weddings close to home location wise? I really think that anyone that wants to be there will make it anyway, they have lots of notice to put money away don't they?

I went to 7 weddings in 6 weeks last year and that was travelling home from london - all over ireland. It was unreal expensive as you can imagine with flights, accom, car hire, gift and spending money, but it was people that we just couldnt miss their wedding. We wanted to be there- so we made it happen.

It's easy for me to say but please try not to worry. All the important people will still be there!
I hope your friends fiance is ok, that is horrendous for them to go through

[bingowings]

Flomeo put it better than I did. Try not to worry.

[Salamanca]

They'll have the same money put aside for just before your wedding as they would have had for October. Don't feel this undermines your wedding in anyway. It doesn't. What a great week people will have! Just give your friend the support she needs-don't know how you'd organise a wedding with that hanging over you. Personally I wouldn't care about anyone but my fiancé if I was in that situation-harsh and all as that sounds.

[mrsmccormack2b]

She probably genuinely wasn't thinking when she booked it, think about how up in the air things must be for her, you're asking how to take it.....I'd be grateful your fiance isn't going through what her fiance is.
Everyone will still be there for your wedding, things might be tight for them but feck it if they want to be there they'll be there......plus you've the excitment of the run up to share with your friend, think positively hun, everything will be fine & you'll still have a fab day

[Mrs Brideog]

As my ole religion teacher used to say and it makes so much sense, 'feelings are never right nor wrong, they just are'.

You are entitled to feel any way you want. I can see both your sides. She has been waiting for ages to marry her fiance and was probably a bit worried she would never have a wedding day with him at all. She was probably so relieved that his condition wasn't terminal that she just wanted to marry him asap!!

It sucks for you that it's exactly a week before yours. Do you think that some friends or family of yours won't attend yours now? If it really bugs you or you think you are putting too much pressure on your famly, maybe you could postpone yours a month or two?? But that's if it really, REALLY bugs you!

If you can, try and put yourself in her shoes and you might feel a bit better about it. I totally understand why you feel the way you do. I don't think I would have liked it myself but begrudgingly I would have to accept it because it's the right thing to do. Another cliché but 'the right thing and hard thing to do are often the same thing'. Hope you feel better about it soon.

[Virginia Woolf]

Hun I dont think you sound like a bitch at all. Its understandable that you are worried with them being so close together and under normal circumstances I'd tell you to say something to her. Unfortunately these arnt normal circumstances and your friend is going through a really hard time right now so I would say she genuinely never even thought. If people have enough notice about two weddings then Im sure they will be able to afford both. Dont be worrying pet and dont be thinking too bad of yourself either

[Iheartdiamonds]

As another poster said, I'm sure all your family and friends will have saved to attend both weddings so the fact that both are now within a week of each other shouldn't be a problem.

Jeeze, this really puts things in perspective - I hope your friends fiance is ok.

[flomeo]

I get what you mean but sure people would have two outfits anyway if they were always going to both weddings?! It shouldnt matter that they are so close. You have 9 or 10 months? So your guest have so much time to put money aside.

It'll be fine! As someone else said, this kind of thing puts everything into perspective. I feel guilty fussing over invitations and trivial things now

[hugbear]

Dont worry.... under different circumstances things would be different.. people will put the money aside, they would have spent the money in Oct anyway.. There is more chance of you both getting the same turn-out and gifts (I know its not about the gifts but still) under these circumstances.

They prob should have avoided the clash by at least 3 weeks but sure its booked now.. just think at her wedding you will be absolutly buzzing with excitment!!!!