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[sadlier86]

hi girls would love your help here. my dad is no longer with us but would still like to include the father daughter dance in his memory is it strange to ask somebody to stand in and do this dance with me?? would maybe have the song "im already there" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYInleBlzrk

[Mrs Brideog]

Aw, I know how you feel sadlier. My dad died just after I got engaged so I did not have him for my wedding day either. I think if you want to do that to honour him and yu would be happy dancing with someone else who is not your dad, then go for it.

For me, I couldn't have done it. But I did get an uncle of mine to stand in for him and do my FOB speech. I did, however, talk about my dad in my speech and honoured him in that way.

Who are you thinking about having the dance with?

[sadlier86]

not really sure ive 4 brothers, my little brother (19) is walking me down the aisle but dont think he would be comfortable dancing, teenage embarassment its still very much an idea i dont want to make guests uncomfortable either. like you i may think of other ways of remembering him on the day without making it so obvious. im already having a little locket on my bouqet with his picture!! and thanks hon its great to hear from someone whi has been in the same situation! x

[Mrs Brideog]

Ah yeah, it's so hard without your daddy! I don't think the guests would feel uncomfortable watching it. Love the idea of the locket, that's lovely.

My dad was a great craftsman and I had a harp that he had carved out at his spot at the table. I left a chair out for him.

I think maybe you should run the idea by your brothers and see what they think. They'd be honest and they know your guests more so would be able to give you the best advice on whether it's a good idea but f it's something you'd like to do and they are willing to run with it, then I think you should do it!

[sadlier86]

have literally just had a brainwave that i could do a upbeat song that he loved, used to sing the sawdoctors all my loving is gone but changed the words to all my money is gone

[Mrs Brideog]

Ah, I had a big reply typed out there but I deleted it by accident!! I was laughing because my dad used to do the same thing with songs as well. I think it's a great idea, because that song is personal to you and your dad and you can remember your dad in a happy way...it'll probably still make you cry but nothing wrong with that.

[sadlier86]

nope im well prepared for a few tears on the day but happy as well as sad ones!! soppy i know but i know he would have been dead proud to see me on my big day!!

[Mrs Brideog]

Yep, ditto!! He sure would and I'm sure he is. xx

[ivorybride2012]

have literally just had a brainwave that i could do a upbeat song that he loved, used to sing the sawdoctors all my loving is gone but changed the words to all my money is gone

that sounds like a lovely idea hun. All your family could get up and enjoy one of your fond memories of your dad. And I'm sure your dad will be there in spirit pet beaming from ear to ear and so proud of his little girl x

[augustbride2012]

Saddlier, there are a good few of us here in the same position, so take heart there are a few others in the boat with you. My dad is dead too, my Godfather is giving me away and doing the FOB speech but I'm not even considering doing anything like this cause I'd be too sad and start crying - not the elegant gentle teardrop rolling off the cheek but the big ugly sobby crying with red eyes and nose. I got a white candle made carved with roses and I'm going to get my uncle to light it at the beginning of the mass to symbolise my dad presence - it might be a bit bonkers sounding for some but I really like the idea of brining home the candle afterwards and being able to light it and think of him.

[sadlier86]

Saddlier, there are a good few of us here in the same position, so take heart there are a few others in the boat with you. My dad is dead too, my Godfather is giving me away and doing the FOB speech but I'm not even considering doing anything like this cause I'd be too sad and start crying - not the elegant gentle teardrop rolling off the cheek but the big ugly sobby crying with red eyes and nose. I got a white candle made carved with roses and I'm going to get my uncle to light it at the beginning of the mass to symbolise my dad presence - it might be a bit bonkers sounding for some but I really like the idea of brining home the candle afterwards and being able to light it and think of him.

Not bonkers at all hun sounds like a really lovely idea, without turning this into a big depressing post i have the reflection used at my dads mass framed and in our sitting room and find it really comforting if thats the right word!!