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[livingabroad]

I’m a little sad. We’ve been planning this wedding for 18 months, and have been together for 9 years. We picked a date really early on and mailed everyone with it. I sent out invites last week and I’m really upset with the amount of No’s I;ve been getting. One of my best friends is not going to make it home from Australia because she never applied for her visa on time  she was supposed to do a reading. One friend in Sweden cant get back because she has guests visiting. Another just had twins and wont be able to leave them etc.

I know its stupid and we were expecting some refusals but im so sad that its close friends of mine that I had really thought would be there. We had 270 on invite list and H2B is happy we are getting refusals and we wanted to keep it to about 200, but I’m really gutted and a bit hurt  I think i was expecting some relations/ older guests to pull out. Instead I feel like they are all I will be left with. And I feel stupid for being upset when so much worse stuff is happening in other peoples lives – it feels very self-indulgent.

[Mrs Brideog]

Ah, as I said on another thread earlier - you are entitled to your feelings and they are never 'right' or 'wrong'!

It's understandable that you are sad that your close friends won't make it. But in fairness to them, they have good excuses, they are very far away. Trust me, your relatives all love you and they will be there because they're happy for you and with 270 on the guest list, you won't miss some of your friends. I very much doubt you'd get around to seeing everyone on the night anyway. I didn't and I only had 140.

Maybe you can arrange to go and visit your friends who can't make it next summer or something and catch up then. I'm sure they are sad to be missing your big day too. Try not to let it get you down too much. Your wedding day will be spectacular regardless of what crap happens along the way...and trust me, evreyone feels like crap about one thing or another in relation to their wedding. It's part and parcel of the experience. Chin up honey

[livingabroad]

Aw thank you - i think i probably need kick up the bum. Its just upsetting though, we were going to have a tiny wedding (huge families making up lots of the numbers0 but we decided to approach it as a day to throw a party for our friends, and its sad that lots of them wont be there.

I don't tend to get back to Ireland very often so i was excited about getting my friends in one place at the same time

think i shall give myself 30 mins to feel sorry for myself and then give myself a kick in bum and stop!!

thank you.

[Mrs Brideog]

Good for you! I see what you mean about the party. Make the most out of your 30 minutes of misery and then enjoy the rest of your day