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[TanyaBranning]

I say contraversial as there is no right or wrong, should or shouldn't.

Are you paying for your bridal party to stay overnight the night of your wedding? We gave them all the option to stay overnight. Asked all the bridal party ages ago, 50% said no, as they live a taxi ride away. But we asked them in case they wanted to make a night of it, sense of occasion etc. Fair enough though, nobody was under pressure to stay. We have 2 BM's and one groomsman staying. So we are going to pay for those rooms. It's these BM's and GM have done the most for us anyway. I did feel a tad guilty about it, but my h2b says if they were all staying because they wanted to stay for us.

[bingowings]

Not controversial at all!

Like you all of ours live a taxi ride away. They can stay if they want but we won't be paying for the rooms all except one. The bestman. Reason for this is that bestman has two kids and his wife will make him go home early because of the kids so to make sure bestman enjoys the day we're paying for the room and babysitters for the kids so they can be put up to bed and the bestman doesn't have to worry about it. Wifey can go to bed too for that matter, she's not that interested in weddings so not too bothered about that. As for the rest of the bridal party well they have kids but have decided not to bring them to the wedding so they've decided to go home after. I'm not making it any secret that we're paying for one room and not others as there is good reason for it and actually everyone understands. The only other rooms we're paying for are the parents but the hotel are throwing them in anyway!

I wouldn't worry about it too much Tanya like you said they already decided to take the taxi home and the others opted to stay so it's not as if you didn't give them the option.

[TanyaBranning]

True! If they knew they were paid for they would stay in a shot. So I'm wondering if I should tell them? H2b says a big

[caroline_A2]

i am paying for my 2 bridesmaids they are sharing the room ill be paying for the night before the wedding and the night of the wedding for them. i thought id be nice to do it for them.

[bingowings]

Honestly I don't think you need to tell them. You've already given them the option to stay and they decided to go home. Granted they didn't know at the time you were paying but I'm afraid that's the way the cookie crumbles! I think if they do find out just say I thought you didn't want to stay and paying for the room was a last minute decision or just say the hotel threw in the room at the last minute. I really don't think they are going to question the others getting a room and them not when they already said they would get a taxi. Seriously hun don't worry about it and I know it's a lovely gesture to pay for rooms but if it's another expense on top of everything else then most people would understand that.

[TanyaBranning]

Thanks ladies xx

[Mallow]

I agree, there is no need to mention it, although it depends on their financial situation too, it may be nice for them to know, ease off any pressures they may be having, but is they seem to be ok money wise then it would be a nice surprise.

We paid for all the bridal party, our parents (included in package) - which hubby kept telling them That irritate me as I was like - ah it's factored into the thousands we are paying don't be making it sound like the hotel are great, we could give them to someone else or negotiate something else instead, but anyhoo!! We paid for hubby's grandparents too, just cause we thought it would be a nice thing to do for them, he was very close to them

[BHolidayBride]

Our parents are included in the package too - but I'm not paying for the rest of the bridal party. Most of them are coming to our wedding from Dublin (we're getting married in Wexford) and they're making a long weekend of it and staying 3 nights. We were thinking of having a dinner the next night for family and the bridal party and we'll pay for that

[IRockedTheFrock]

I'm just paying for the room the night before the wedding. Me, my BM (I only have one) and my mum are sharing a large connecting room. My BM would have been coming to the wedding as my friend & guest anyway if she hadnt been asked to be BM so I dont think she would have expected me to pay for the room on the night of the wedding to be honest. However, if it was a problem for her or if she wasnt working or something I would take those circumstances into account and pay for her then.

[TanyaBranning]

If I'm to be honest, I think the only time it SHOULD be paid for is if the Bride or Groom insist that their bridal party MUST stay. Some do. We don't.

We are of the attitude that we only want people there who want to be there. So I'd hate if any of them felt they had to. They don't feel they have to though, so no problem.

[Hailey]

We are paying for the rooms for bridesmaids x 3 best man x 2 and groomsman. Bestman and one groomsman are traveling over 4rm oz, so i think its only fair, also got 2 parents room thrown in

[April2012]

On our package we were getting free rooms for parents so i then asked for bridal party too and the hotek gave them no bother. Worth asking your hotel for free rooms for them but if they dont give them I dont think you would have to pay for rooms for them. I was brodemaid before and paid for room myself wouldnt have expected B&G to pay.

[mollybird]

ya we are getting 2 free rooms in our package and we have decided to give them to h2b's parents and his godmother who is a pensioner. my bm's will be staying with me in the house the night before as i know i won't be able to sleep a wink so ill need them to keep me cool, calm and collected. i may pay for my bm that will be down from cork for her room for one of the nights, as an early bday pressie. depending how long she is thinking of staying around for as i think our wedding will be a 3 day event.

[MrsTK2B]

We're going to pay for hotel rooms for the bestman and the bridesmaid and her boyfriend. Maybe for the night before the wedding too as I am staying in the hotel and want my BM there too. H2B and bestman will be staying in another hotel that night and think H2B will pay for bestman there too. Its much too far for either of them to travel on morning of wedding, about a 4 hour trip. Not paying for either set of parents though.

[feb2012]

No sorry wount be paying for there rooms. Paying for enough ie: dresses, presents.. Its only one night so they can pay for themselves