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[mrswtobe]

Please help ladies,

I just got a phone call from my mother telling me she saw the dress for the wedding. It's black! She thinks she's doing right because I'm having a black and white theme but that's just the BMs and GM I had in mind. I wasn't too hung up on the idea as I think it will look weird and I think it's pretty bad luck. She sent me a picture and although it's very blurry it's too much black I think. I wasn't very enthusiastic on the phone plus I'm sick so I just said I thought some colour might be nicer, black might look weird but if she has her heart set on it to go ahead. I'm a bit shocked though. Would anyone else be like WTF?

[caroline_A2]

i wouldnt. my theme is similar in that my bm are in black with gold wraps and the gm in black suits and gold waistcoats. so if my mam wanted to wear a black dress that would be fine by me id just ask her to get coloured assessories so facinator shoes handbag in another colour so she wouldnt look too black.
my mil has a fab pink suit but is wearing all black accessories shoes handbag and hat

[mrswtobe]

That would be fine if there was another colour in it but it's ALL black even the fascinator. I feel bad saying no to her but I think she'll change her mind as fmil will be so colourful and my mam always wears black I think she'd be lovely in something else like royal blue. I think she's panicking cos fmil has hers and she doesn't. Of course I only saw a picture but I don't know if all black would be too much for her.

[caroline_A2]

my mil has her outfit too and my mam is totally laid back dont think she has even looked for anything. ok i would find it odd if me mam wanted to wear all black. could you offer to go shopping with her for an alternative as your fmil has a very colourful outfit and you dont want your mam to fade into the background you want her to stand out not as much as you but stand out for the best reasons possible

[taz30]

My mother has gotten a black dress for our wedding and I was there when she chose it!! Now we are not getting married in a church so maybe thats different but I thought it was really dressy and looked fab on her!! She was more worried than me about getting it but who cares, as long as she is comfortable in it, I think let her wear what she wants!! I think black is really classy for bridesmaids so don't think its much different for the MOB!! Just an opinion though!!!

[kcsmrs2b]

I think black is really classic and stylish. Your mother will look great with the bridal party and will be identifiable as the MOB.

[feb2012]

They say in some old tradition that it is bad luck for MOB to wear black at there daughters wedding. The Grooms MOB is ok... If you are not happy I would just say it to her. Has she already bought it. My mam lives in black and wanted to wear a black dress but I went shopping with her and turned her off the idea. She got a fantastic Pink colours with a white jacket. It looks fantastic on her and she is glad she did not buy the black as we found out the day after we got my mams dress that my H2B mam bought a black and white dress. She would not have been comfortable with that.

Good Luck. Talk to her

Link I found:
What are the color restrictions surrounding the mother of the bride's dress?

A. Traditionally, avoiding dresses in the white, ivory, and champagne color family (that match the bride's wedding gown), black gowns (that can suggest mourning) and red gowns(or similarly "flashy" shades) is the standard. Though we've seen moms in white who look tailored and elegant. We think black is classic, chic, and formal, and know that even red can be done with gorgeous good taste. The bottom line? Before you start shopping, talk to the bride. She may be very sensitive to the color issue or completely indifferent. If she expresses reservation, think about subdued-but-stately colors in the lavender, silver, burgundy, and blue families.



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[AprilRose]

Are you having your bridesmaids in black as well? I would think it's weird to have mothers wearing the same colour as the bridesmaids - I'd think they were hoping to be mistaken as a bridesmaid!

Personally I'd associate black with mourning... I was at a wedding once where the groom's mother wore black and I swear she looked like she was at a funeral! The grumpy, nasty look on her face didn't help, either!