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[MrsTK2B]

Sorry, but I agree, the poem does just seem rude. Like HappyMissus said, most guests will give cash anyway. And there is the danger that some people might dislike your request for money so much they give you kettle/toaster/towels/lamp etc just to annoy you. Demanding what you want for a present really only works when you are a kid writing to Santa! After that you really need to take what you are given and be grateful, unless someone asks in advance what you would like. If they ask, then I think its ok to say that money towards the honeymoon would be lovely, as you already have your house furnished. Though I think its polite to say that they don't need to get you anything, you're happy to have them as guests anyway. And if any guest who you know is unemployed/student/otherwise broke asks I would be inclined to suggest some small gift they could get instead of cash. If you tell them cash they will feel they have to put a minimum of €100 in your card.

Sorry to be harsh, but I really think most of your guests would find the poem rude.

[TanyaBranning]

Omg, cringe, sorry but you will get money anyway most likely. Please don't include the poem.

[augustbride2012]

I'm not in favor of the poem idea, I think if people ask then its fine to say you'd perfer money because they have asked and its fair enough to give them a straight answer. And its okay to tell the rest of the family to say so if they are asked also. I think some people might get a bit mad and just give you something like an ugly lamp instead.

[fionab1385]

If people ask us straight out would we like money we say Yes Please but all we want is their company for the day. my folks are spreading the word around too but at the end of the day I learnt from my sisters wedding that quite a few people give nothing so we are not expecting anything and anything we do get is a bonus.

[Loveknowsnodistance]

I personaly will make a list in 2 or 3 different shops with items we would want. can be anything from glasses for wine to well, anything. :p


so, if someone only had 20 or 30 euros to spend on a gift, there will be something on that price on the list for them to get. and they will know it is something we would want. so win-win here. if someone wants they would be able to get us an expensivier gift. or no gift at all. i will make sure to out that on the card with the list of the stores as well. and also add a note about how its ok if someone wants to give a gift with someone else. like lets say A has 15 euros. and B had 20. there is a gift that is 35 euros on the list, they could buy it together for us.

[Littlemisscupcake]

Hi Ladies, I have been watching this post as I have been to Weddings that have put a similar poem on their invitations or sent an email seperately and to be honest I was not shocked nor insulted by it. We have decided not to put it on ours as we don't care if we get gifts or not. If we had no room or really didn't want gifts then I would put a poem in. Caroline, you are inviting I presume friends and family to your wedding so you would know them well enough to know if they would take offense to your poem.

[flomeo]

Going with the general concensus here and thinking it's best not to really mention it or put it in invitations, whatever way you dress up the poem, you're still asking for money!

I'm really shocked that young people still give presents?!
I have only ever given cash gifts at weddings and it wouldnt dawn on me to give a housey present at all! We've had over 20 weddings in the past few yrs and have given 200 to each couple and a little more if they were really close friends.
Most people live together and are set up and even if they dont live together may have their own place and have all they need really.

I thought it was only older people that gave non cash gifts and then maybe your parents/in laws could kinda hint that there isnt much you need in the line of toasters!

It's just dodgy territory verbalising that you want cash, i really thought it was the standard practice anyway!